I Picked Out My Own Engagement Ring at a Pawn Shop
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If there’s one thing I love almost as much as my husband, it’s getting a sweet deal on something I was going to buy anyway.
While I’ve always been averse to parting with my paycheck, I’m not the most responsible with my money and I never considered myself frugal until recently.
But through paying off $78,000 in debt, I know for sure I married the most frugal man I’ve ever met.
There are a lot of ways to save money. Here are some of my favorites:
- Open a high-interest savings account at Axos Bank to get your emergency fund making you money
- Open a Roth IRA at M1 Finance to save a boat-load on taxes in retirement
- Use the free Investment Fee Checker at Personal Capital to make sure you’re not overpaying fees in your IRA and 401(k).
- Shopping through Rakuten when making any purchases online will get you cash-back from virtually any retailer.
- Connect your card to Dosh to get cash back all over the place (no rebate clicking or receipt scanning!)
- Use Blink to save on prescriptions.
- EyeBuyDirect to save on prescription eyewear.
- Energy saving methods like low-flow showerheads to reduce our utility bill.
- ThredUp for nice secondhand clothing at steep discounts from retail.
But when you’re making big purchases, sometimes you have to pull out the big guns. When Travis introduced me to pawn shops I learned they are the big guns.
Why Should You Choose a Pawn Shop?
I grew up buying everything new. We’d stop at thrift stores every once in a while to look at clothes but I don’t have a long attention span for shopping in the first place so thrift store scavenger hunts were my childhood nightmare.
Pawn shops are different. Everything is easily identifiable, reasonable quality, and negotiable on price. They are the Holy Grail for thrift store averse frugal shoppers.
Some of our favorite things that Travis and I have purchased from Pawn shops are my laptop, an indestructible Bluetooth speaker, a vintage typewriter, workout DVDs, a Chromecast, and dearest to my heart, my engagement ring.
Yes, I did pick out my own engagement ring. I remember it like it was yesterday.
We only went in to look at the styles so I could show him what I liked (because the ideas he was throwing out were reminiscent of bad 80‘s costume jewelry.) When I first laid eyes on it I audibly gasped. It was still too expensive, we had a budget of $800 and it was listed for $1600. So out of my league.
But the jeweler said it’d been in the store for a long time so he took the ring back to the pawnbroker to see what he could do. Minutes later he offered it to us for $800. It was love at first sight, a match made in heaven.
We got it appraised from an independent jeweler when resizing it and he said it was easily worth over $3,000. Now every time someone compliments my ring my response is always “Thank you! I got it at a pawn shop!”
We would’ve never gotten that deal if we hadn’t been strict with our budget. One of the strategies to getting the best deal is to have the power to walk away. Now that I’m an avid pawn shop stopper (stopping for pawn shops whenever I see one) I’m shocked at how few people take advantage of the great deals to be had there.
Pawn shops are a treasure trove for
- Small appliances like KitchenAid stand mixers and fancy blenders
- Household appliances like vacuums, lawnmowers, and electrical hand tools
- Newer model TVs and speakers like Soundbar
- All kinds of jewelry
- Bikes
- Digital cameras
- Musical instruments
Don’t be intimidated by the sketchy reputation of pawn shops. I’ve never felt unsafe in one and I’m usually impressed by the security and organization of their set-ups. So let me demystify this secret weapon for you so you can walk in with those steel-enforced doors with the confidence of a pawn star.
Pick Your Pawn
There are two types of pawn shops: general and specialized.
General pawn shops have a wide variety of general things. Specialized shops have a wide variety of a particular category.
Typically the major types of specializations are gold & jewelry, guns, and electronics. For my ring, we went to a store that specialized in jewelry. They might’ve had some other items but 95% of the shop was jewelry. That meant a way better selection than what we’d seen at any other shop.
If we’re being honest, I wouldn’t buy jewelry or electronics from a shop that didn’t specialize in them. If you’re shopping for small appliances or just browsing then the major pawn retailers like Cash America or Value Pawn are great. For high-value items, you want to make sure you’re getting better quality than a generalized store can offer.
Do a Little Research on the Shop
Google pawn shops in your area and find out their reputations. Read reviews and determine the level of trust you’ll go in there with. A great pawn shop may charge a little more but you’ll feel safer buying high-value items there.
Don’t avoid those seedy little pawn shops though. You can find failsafe items like DVDs and tools there for cheaper than the big guys.
In the same vein, if you know what you want, research new and used prices for the item to make sure you’re getting a good deal or to give you leverage when negotiating. You’ll also want to find out if there are any models that are subpar or prone to defects so you can avoid those.
Since my ring is rose gold, I did a quick search on my phone for rose gold engagement rings. The ring is 10K plated which is common but I learned it was the diamond we were getting the real deal on.
Do Your Homework
Figure out what kind of ring you’re looking for beforehand. There are a lot of things that go into how much a ring costs.
When pricing diamonds, there are 4 C’s that make up the price.
Color
The more clear (colorless) the diamond, the more expensive it is.
Cut
The cut is the shape of the diamond. The most popular cuts are princess, round, cushion, pear, and emerald. The two cheapest cuts of diamonds are asscher and emerald.
Clarity
The clarity is how the light passes through the diamonds. The fewer imperfections, the higher the clarity and therefore the higher the cost.
Carat
The carat is how big the actual stone is. The bigger the stone, the higher the cost.
Let’s be real. Unless you’re hanging out with a bunch of jewelry appraisers or diamond experts, no one’s going to get that close to your ring to examine the diamond anyway. So if you want a less expensive color because you want a larger diamond, go for it.
It’s your ring and you and your partner get to decide what you want.
You Can Ask for the Appraisal
If you’re going to a pawn shop that specializes in jewelry, they more than likely have an appraiser on staff or at least on standby.
Ask them for proof of the appraisal. This will tell you exactly how much the ring is worth and that will help you with negotiations.
Lower Your Out of Pocket Costs
If you have some things lying around the house you no longer use, you can sell them to the pawn shop to lower the out-of-pocket cost of your ring.
You can use it as an excuse to do a quick declutter and find some things that might be worth some money to the pawn shop.
If you’re going to a pawn shop that specializes in jewelry and you’re selling other things, you can sell them to another pawn shop or even on Facebook Marketplace or Craigslist.
Pay With Cash
You have more negotiating power when you pay with cash. This doesn’t work at every pawn shop but it works at a lot of them, even the big name shops.
When we got my ring the pawn shop included tax in the $800 if we paid with cash and I was able to get our Bluetooth speaker down $10 when I offered to pay with cash.
When you use your card (either debit or credit) at a store, they have to pay a service fee to their card processor. Using cash saves them money, so they pass on some of that savings to you.
Don’t be Afraid to Negotiate
In instances where I can’t get them to go down on price with cash, I’ll ask them to throw in something small for free. It’s usually a small tool or lug nut that Travis has been eyeing. Negotiating like this usually works.
Approach them like you’re just going get the smaller item but you’ll get the more expensive item if they throw in the little thing for free. Or if you negotiated and pricier item and they won’t budge, walk away and look for something small then say you’ll take their price if they throw in your new found item for free.
In the case of my ring, we were firm on our budget, we were upfront with them that there was no way we were going to pay more. I didn’t even ask them to come down on the price because I didn’t think they’d take half off but because we were firm and the ring had been there a while we got the deal of the century.
Be Aware of the Return Policy
Pawn shops may or may not have a return policy. If you’re on the fence about something then a 14-day return policy could make or break your decision to buy.
Don’t be that person who tries to return a broken TV only to find out the policy excludes electronics. Do your research.
Try Online
I haven’t personally tried online pawnshops yet but, like everything with online shopping, I hear it’s a growing trend. You have the ability to shop and barter just like a real store but you don’t have to drive to the sketchy part of town to do it. I’d love to hear experience from people who’ve tried this.
I never get tired of looking at my engagement ring. It doesn’t bother me one bit that somebody else may have worn it before me because it’s mine now! And best of all, we got a great deal. 😉
More Ways to Save Money
This is just one of the ways we saved money when we were paying off $78K of debt in two years. Some ways you can save include:
- Open a high-interest savings account at Axos Bank to get your emergency fund making you money
- Open a Roth IRA at M1 Finance to save a boat-load on taxes in retirement
- Use the free Investment Fee Checker at Personal Capital to make sure you’re not overpaying fees in your IRA and 401(k).
- Shopping through Rakuten when making any purchases online will get you cash-back from virtually any retailer.
- Connect your card to Dosh to get cash back all over the place (no rebate clicking or receipt scanning!)
- Use Blink to save on prescriptions.
- EyeBuyDirect to save on prescription eyewear.
- Energy saving methods like low-flow showerheads to reduce our utility bill.
- ThredUp for nice secondhand clothing at steep discounts from retail.
There are so many ways to save money on things you need. You just have to get a little creative!
Jen Smith is a personal finance expert, founder of Modern Frugality and co-host of the Frugal Friends Podcast. Her work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Lifehacker, Money Magazine, U.S. News and World Report, Business Insider, and more. She’s passionate about helping people gain control of their spending.
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I don’t think I’ve ever even been in a pawn shop, let alone made a big purchase. It’s a great tip though for big savings, and your engagement ring is just gorgeous!
Thanks Sarah! You should check them out, lots of great finds!
When my husband and I had our 25 wedding anniversary. I stopped in our local pawn shop which is owned by a guy we both went to high school with. I took my original set of wedding rings in and I looked at new rings. I really did see myself in anything. He asked me what shape of cut of diamond I liked? He took my old small diamond out put a large stone in a big setting. Added another band with small diamonds to it. It was beautiful! When he told me the price of $1000 I was so happy it was in our budget. He then put my small stone into a setting for a necklace. I was so happy. My husband wouldn’t let me wear it till we renewed our vows. The best part was our oldest son served as best man and our youezt son walked me down the aisle in the same dance hall we got married. Get memories!
aww! love!
I love pawn shops. My recent trip I brought a $1100 Movado for $50, because the pin fell out . A jeweler charged me $10 to repair it
Awesome!
The reason cash is preferred is because credit card processors and banks charge at least 3% fee. Yes pawn shops can be great deals and if you are frequently in, they get to know you and deals get easier to make. Replaced my husbands wedding ring from pawnshop…great price and got one he loves. If you insist on buying new, like a car it is used (and worth considerably less) once you take it out of store.
We got my engagement ring at a pawn shop too. I totally love it and agree they are the best place to shop
Yeah!
We got my whole set fro the pawn shop we paid 1100 appraised for 4200
Great deal!
I got my engagement ring at a pawn shop. And it appraised at 1800$. Love pawn shops
Nice!
I am a gemologist and goldsmith who has also found some awesome jewelry deals in pawnshops even prior to going to school to become a gemologist.
You might have misunderstood some information but a genuine diamond wouldn’t have been set in 10k much less 10k plating thats costume jewelry.
Also the center stone looks larger than a half ct. and the setting is modern. There is no way it would have been reduced to $800 unless it is lab created, Or a simulated stone of type.
Cool story though…
You can get amazing deals at pawn shops, but you can’t get a ring that retails 7-10k for $800
We did have it appraised by an independent gemologist and as I stated in the post it was worth $3K. And it’s set in rose gold which we were told typically only comes in 10K.
My boyfriend recently gifted me a promise ring after being together for 2 years and I chose out the ring. I found it on eBay. I purchased it from a pawn shop and it is a ring from Kay Jewelers that is currently $1,500 and my boyfriend only paid a $350 plus tax 😉
Nice!
Got mine at a pawn shop too!!!. 1.5 carats for $800, cant beat it! The pawn shop we went to also has a lifetime warranty. About a year after I got it I had a stone fall out. We took it back to the pawnshop they fixed it with no problems. Pawnshops are the way to go.
How do you know that it’s REAL diamond and not cubic zirconia? I’m sure that you can’t borrow it for the day to get it appraised..
That’s why I’d only buy jewelry from a shop that does mostly jewelry. When we bought ours we took it to my roommate’s dad who’s a gemologist and had him appraise it. If you’re unsure, make sure there’s a 30-day return policy so you can have it appraised and return it if it’s not real.
So, I’m late reading & replying to this article, but I, too, got my engagement ring from a pawn shop back in 1990.
As we got more settled & financially secure I became interested in & began collecting rare gemstones & jewelry. I began studying for my Graduate Gemologist, & the more educated I became, the more I understood that pawn shops are THE best place to purchase diamonds & gemstones!
Pawn shops not only deal in pawned jewelry, but also new jewelry, as well as loose diamonds, & gemstones. If you don’t want to wear someone else’s used jewelry, you can always buy it for the gemstone & have the stone re-set into something new. Also, if you can’t find what you’re looking for, they can frequently either offer you catalogs of items to look at & choose from, that they can custom-order for you! They can usually create custom-made pieces on site for you, as well!
Most jewelry stores are either chain jewelry stores, or high-end boutique stores, which are very expensive. When you walk into a chain jewelry store chances are that the staff, including management, is no different than a mall or department clothing store sales-person who has received very basic training in diamonds & the very basic birthstone gems. I know b/c I worked in one of the better ones. On the other hand, pawn shops (almost) always have a Graduate Gemologist on staff, & frequently they also have a gold & silversmith as well, meaning they can custom-make your own jewelry designs as well. They generally have a much bigger selection of gemstones, including many more rare & exotic gemstones that most chain jewelry store sales people have never even heard of. Additionally, you will (almost) always get a much larger selection of genuine natural diamonds & gemstones (as opposed to lab created or man-made) than the chain stores will offer, & you’ll definitely get a much better deal, aka, more bang for your buck if you go to a pawn shop.
Anyone with any amount of knowledge in jewelry, & especially gemologists & trades-people, will only ever buy from & work with pawn shops b/c the selection & deals just can’t be beat.
Great info! Thanks!
When we were burgled several years ago the police told us to check pawn shops because they handle most of the stolen goods in Houston. I know lots of people shop in them, but I can’t. The few things we recovered were all found at the closest pawn.
So sorry that happened to you. That’s great insight. We only shop at pawn shops who check police reports before they buy. But I think it’s also smart to only buy items that have been there for several weeks in order to give time for people to report things stolen and find them if they are.
I also got my ring from a pawn shop. I never buy jewelry anywhere but pawnshops…best value for your money. I paid $1000.00 for engagement n wedding band.
Nice!
It’s good that you point out that pawn shops are a great place to buy jewelry. I want to propose to my girlfriend soon, so I’m considering buying her a ring at a pawn shop. I’m going to look for a good pawn shop in my area that can sell me an engagement ring.